No really, she is. We grew up in the same house, have the same parents, were taught the same lessons, etc. But I’m really starting to wonder what has happened to her. I could go on and on about my sister, but this particular subject has me so bent out of shape I had to vent.
My sister, Susan, has two beautiful children. Let’s call them Brittney (6) and Kyle (1). Brittney and Kyle’s birthdays are a mere 18 days apart. I asked Susan what her plans were for their respective birthdays because she lives out of town and I needed to start making plans for the trip to see them. My sister then informs me that they will be ‘combining the kids’ birthdays this year…it would just be easier that way.’ Are you kidding me? Her logic is that the same people will be coming to both birthdays anyway so why not just send out one big invite and let everyone come all at once?
Am I the only one that has issue with this? I mean, asking my poor niece to share her 7th birthday with her little brother? Granted, Kyle is still too young to care, but he WILL know what a birthday is all about by his 3rd. And according to my sister, all Brittney will get next year is a couple of her friends to come over and spend the night. No party. Nothing. Why would an 8-year-old little girl want a party anyway? OMG!
Growing up, birthdays were always a HUGE deal in our family. It was YOUR day. You didn’t have to share it with anyone else. Out of all the days in the year, your birthday was yours alone. You got to pick what you wanted for your birthday dinner, what kind of cake you wanted, and so on. We didn’t have the money for a huge party with all the entertainment, party favors, and decorations you see these days. But I always got to do something that I wanted, and I certainly never had to share my day with my sister.
I’m still in total shock that Susan is doing this, and she thinks it’s ok. Lack of money isn’t the issue, it’s strictly done out of convenience. At least I hope that’s what it is. I mean, certainly no mother could be that oblivious to the importance of a birthday for their own child(ren). Is it fair for my sister to be forcing her kids to share their birthday only because it is more convenient for her? Is it right that she is taking away the only day that belongs to these precious children? Am I just being totally irrational about this?
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We did the same thing for our 2 kids (ages 6 & 4). Just a thought...everyone's weekends are always busy. Why not combine the parties to make it wasier for those who will be coming? Instead of taking up 2 weekends (when some might have other plans), it makes sense to ask them to make just 1 trip, leaving a weekend free for someone else's party or vacation trip. I hate to say it, but in these financial times, it does make sense. Buy 2 cakes and make a day of it!
I think there are plenty of ways to make 2 children feel special with one party. Also, you can have the party on neither's actual birthday and that way they can still have their favorite dinner and queen/king for a day stuff on their real birthdate.
I don't think she is a complete nut job just cause she wants to combine parties. . ..I was expecting to hear something really nutso!
I agree with you that it is nicer to have separate occasions, but hey, lots of people combine parties. It's not that big of a deal. If it is to you, maybe ask her to re-consider, to talk to her daughter and see if she's ok with it.
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